Narcissism Leadership Facts

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  • Narcissists live in a grandiose world of their own making.  They believe they are extraordinary and exceptional and can only be understood by—or should connect with, other extraordinary or important people or institutions.
  • Narcissists do not experience empathy. They do not care about others’ points of view or feelings unless it is to manipulate a situation or person to their advantage. 
  • Narcissists have a maddening ability to charm. But that charm eventually gives way to manipulation, entitlement, lack of forgiveness, and a desperate need for ego strokes.  
  • Narcissism is worse than arrogance. A person who is just a little arrogant still has moments where they can admit they’re wrong, apologize for their mistakes, and empathize. 
  • Narcissism starts in childhood. Often by praising them for their achievements or outward appearances, but never for their inner value.
  • Try not to take a narcissist’s behavior personally. It really isn’t about you.
  • You might have to leave. The most common mistake is thinking you can “fix” it by saying or doing the “right thing.

Basic weaknesses of a narcissistic leader:
  • They’re sensitive to criticism.
  • They’re poor listeners.
  • They lack empathy.
  • They have a distaste for mentoring.
  • They have an intense desire to compete. Of course, all leaders want to win, but narcissists are not restrained by conscience.

Narcissistic leaders often say that they want teamwork. What that means in practice is that they want a group of yes-men.

--Adapted from The Coaching & Leadership Journal, January 2021 Issue

The Coaching & Leadership Journal



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